Sometimes old things come to bite you in the bum.
Sometimes they're good things, to help you along that linear path that no one has actually constructed.
Sometimes it's a boring old thing, that doesn't really need dealing with, but it's still there.
But when it's something that comes to bite you in the bum, you have to be wary. You have a few options: Go with the flow; Hide where it came from - no one will know; or RUUUUN!!!
My partner's ex keeps biting us in the bum. Asking for more money, all the time. Don't Child Support get used to it, and tell the women to shut up? I've been on both sides of that coin, and now we're on the we're-too-poor-to-pay-that-amount side. But other than write a report saying just that, there isn't a lot we can do.
Loan's come to bite you in the bum once your divorced. My ex and I cannot settle ours, as I'm a single mum on a pension, there's nothing we can do. And my new partner's loan with his ex is a house loan, and it's not going anywhere until the house is sold, and in this market, it may be a while (fingers crossed it isn't).
Going with the flow is what I do best, you see. I don't stand and demand change, because it makes a scene. I don't like being the centre of attention. I have to be at our mum's group, because I lead some of it. But I'm not all that comfortable all the time. I do like taking charge. But going with the flow and steering - THAT, I am good at.
Our problem at the moment, is constructing how we are going to live on so little while the ex's both live with more. It's something that's both bit us in the bum, and we have to go with the flow to deal with it. Neither of us are the people to stand up for something that can barely be argued, even though we are so angry about what she is asking for, and what a government agency are suggesting we pay. So, going with the flow, even though we want to RUN, is the most likely option.
Ugh.
